When you’re small, waiting for anything can seem to take a lifetime, especially when it’s a baby! There is so much to sort out for the new arrival – clothes, toys and a place to sleep. A new addition to any family is exciting, but the experience can also be worrying and confusing for siblings
When you’re small, waiting for anything can seem to take a lifetime, especially when it’s a baby! There is so much to sort out for the new arrival – clothes and a place to sleep. What’s more, there are big changes ahead for everyone in the family. A new addition to any family is exciting, but the experience can also be worrying and confusing for siblings who are unsure what is going on!
A new baby will change every aspect of your life. From clothes to toys and from cribs to bottles, it will take some time to get everything ready. The arrival of a new baby is very exciting, but can also be worrying and confusing for siblings. It’s important that they understand what’s happening and how they can help – which is why we have created this book to help them prepare for their new brother or sister.
Waiting for baby will be worth it, and we’ve got all the products you need for their arrival. From clothes, toys and furniture to drugs, education and even advice! We know that this is a big adjustment for your whole family so our aim is to make every step of the way as easy as possible. As soon as you’ve booked in at the hospital, we’ll be delivering your chosen products right to your door each week – whether they are new or second hand. And once they arrive, they can help prepare your home and family before your new addition arrives
Waiting for a new baby, whether it’s your first child or your fifth, can be a challenging experience. With a little preparation, though, you can make sure everyone is prepared – even the younger ones – and ready to meet the new arrival with excitement and anticipation!
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You wouldn’t take a cake out of the oven before it’s ready, but how about that bun in the oven? For some pregnant women, the answer is “Sure!” In fact, 10 to 15 percent of all births in the U.S. are “early elective” deliveries (meaning prior to 39 weeks’ gestation, via cesarean section or induction, without a clear medical reason), two new studies find – and some hospitals report that number is as high as 44 percent.
But, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) staunchly advises against elective deliveries before 39 weeks. Term has long meant between 37 and 41 weeks, but this is a time frame for allowing normal, spontaneous labor to start without intervention, explains Caroline Signore, M.D., an ob-gyn with the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute for Child Health and Human Development, in Bethesda, Maryland. Elective, early deliveries can lead to problems for mom and baby that are uncommon in spontaneous deliveries. Because of this, many health experts refer to all babies born at 37 or 38 weeks as early term. Of course, if you have a condition such as preeclampsia or diabetes, whose risks outweigh the risks of an early delivery, it may be best to welcome the baby early – and you should feel no guilt about that. But waiting for Baby until the final, er, stretch is often worth it. Read on to learn the downsides of rushing things.
It’s Risky for Babies
More than 25 percent of infants born electively between 37 and 39 weeks required admission to the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) for an average of 4.5 days, compared with fewer than 5 percent of infants who were delivered at 39 weeks or later, according to a recent study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology.
Early babies may end up in the NICU for a host of reasons, most of them relating to immaturity. “They may have a tough time maintaining a normal body temperature because they don’t handle cold or stress well,” says Alan R. Fleischman, M.D., medical director of the March of Dimes Foundation. For others, low blood sugar is often a problem until they get the hang of feeding – and feeding can prove tricky because early-term babies tend to be smaller and weaker, causing struggles at the breast. Doctors typically let babies go home when these issues resolve within a few days, but many newborns end up back in the hospital with jaundice or lingering feeding problems, which can result in dehydration. If nursing continues to be difficult, your baby could miss out on the benefits of breastfeeding, such as increased immunity to common illnesses.
Here’s another thing to think about: At 35 weeks of gestation, the brain weighs only about two thirds of what it will at 40 weeks. “Preliminary data show that full-term babies do better in school than those born early,” says Bryan T. Oshiro, M.D., associate professor at Loma Linda University School of Medicine, in California. That makes sense, especially in light of the mounting evidence that the earlier a baby comes, the greater the risks for having learning and behavioral problems. Babies born between 34 and 36 weeks are more than three times as likely as those born at term to be diagnosed with cerebral palsy, a recent study finds. The number of babies affected is still reassuringly small, but after 37 weeks, the risks do drop significantly.
You might not know it from the earsplitting wails of a newborn, but a healthy set of lungs is one of the last organs to mature when waiting for Baby. That’s why respiratory problems are especially common in babies who arrive too early. In fact, newborns delivered at 37 weeks are three times as likely to experience respiratory distress syndrome (a severe newborn lung disease), transient tachypnea (rapid breathing), pneumonia, a need for a ventilator, and respiratory failure as babies born between 39 and 40 weeks, according to recent research published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.
It’s a Bummer for Moms
Artificially starting labor increases your odds of having a C-section by 50 percent. In order to induce labor, medication is typically administered to soften the cervix and start contractions; a second drug, pitocin, can cause particularly intense contractions. If your cervix doesn’t dilate all the way, or if your contractions aren’t progressing, your doc will opt for a C-section. And while most C-sections today go off without a hitch, they’re still considered major abdominal surgery.
A More Laborious Labor
According to a study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, the average labor time for first-time moms undergoing a planned induction was 14.5 hours, compared with ten or 11 hours for first-timers who went into labor on their own while waiting for Baby. To simulate natural labor, induction usually involves medications such as prostaglandin (taken orally or inserted vaginally) to soften the cervix, or an IV with a synthetic form of the hormone oxytocin (Pitocin or Syntocinon) to get contractions going. Your care provider might also consider breaking your water (also called an artificial rupture of membranes). Many experts note that induced contractions tend to be stronger than those experienced during spontaneous labor, and a recent study reported that synthetic oxytocin (Pitocin) is the medicine most commonly associated with preventable complications during childbirth – with cesarean sections heading up that list.
In fact, the March of Dimes notes that elective inductions are a major contributing factor to skyrocketing C-section rates, giving credence to the idea that the body doesn’t always perform optimally on command. Indeed, among women who had elective inductions, 37 percent had to have an emergency C-section because their cervix simply wasn’t ready for labor, according to a report in Obstetrics & Gynecology.
The C-section rate in the U.S. has surged over the past four decades, from 5 percent in 1970 to above 31 percent today. Sure, the tabloids may trumpet that “too posh to push” celebrities are opting for an easier childbirth, but any woman who has actually spent time recovering from a C-section will probably tell you there’s nothing posh or painless about it. It is surgery and thus still carries with it increased risks for complications, infections, and a considerable recovery period (typically two to four days in the hospital, plus another four to six weeks of healing time at home).
Having one cesarean also ups the odds of an encore with your next baby, which can be more dangerous than many women realize. Repeat C-sections carry increased risks for hemorrhage, infection, hysterectomy, bowel and bladder injury, and abnormal placenta conditions. And although ACOG recently revised its guidelines to state that 60 to 80 percent of women are candidates for vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC), lots of clinicians and hospitals are still wary of allowing them. In fact, many Ob-Gyns are offering fewer opportunities for VBACs these days, according to ACOG.
When you’re recovering from surgery or your baby is in the NICU, you may not be able to cuddle him right away. We know that early skin-to-skin contact can have positive effects on breastfeeding duration, bonding between mother and child, infant crying, and the baby’s cardio-respiratory stability. Complications during pregnancy and birth (including emergency C-sections, suspicion of fetal distress, and hospital admission of the baby) were also associated with postpartum depression, which hampers bonding. Of course, there’s only so much you can control. What matters most is a healthy baby and mom; talk with your doctor so you can try to stick it out as long as you can.
Of course, there are plenty of valid reasons to be induced early or schedule a C-section:
– Fetal-development issues
– High blood pressure or preeclampsia
– Gestational or preexisting diabetes
– Problems with the placenta Ruptured membranes prior to labor
Talk to your doctor about your condition and make sure he thinks it’s essential to go early, Dr. Fleischman advises. “If there’s a true medical indication, definitely move forward.”
Going Crazy Waiting For Baby
As your pregnancy gets closer to your due date (or even past your due date), waiting for your baby can be a lesson in patience. With both of my pregnancies, I had pre-labour contractions (not very common) for several days before my labour finally started. Those several days were agonizingly long and tedious while I waited for the big day to finally arrive.
If you find yourself in the waiting game here are some tips and ideas to get through the frustration:
- Distract yourself. Don’t keep focusing on when/if/how… Watch movies, read books, have baths, play board games or cards.
- Do the things you won’t get a chance to do after baby arrives. Get your hair or nails done, going out for dinner, or having a baby free lunch with girlfriends.
- Stay active. Being active can both get labour going and be a great distraction unto itself. Try going for walks (they may be the slow end of pregnancy walks but that’s ok), dance around your house, or bounce on your exercise ball. Of course, make sure that being active is ok with your medical caregiver first.
- Stay off social media. With everyone being so much more accessible it can be frustrating when people keep messaging you or inquiring over Facebook or Instagram if you’ve had the baby yet. This doesn’t help your headspace.
- Have some good laughs. Watch some funny movies, check out a comedy show, watch funny clips on Youtube. Laughter releases endorphins which will improve your mood and is an important hormone during labour. And share the laughs with your partner too…
- Have sex! Sex is one of the best ways to bring labour on. When mom has an orgasm (or several) this releases oxytocin, the same hormone that brings on contractions. Also, the prostaglandin in Dad’s sperm helps to soften the cervix. And after the baby is born most couples aren’t interested in sex for some time so get it while you can. Again check with your medical caregiver to make sure that this is ok.
- Try to treasure this time. If this is your first baby this will be the last time in your life that you are childfree… revel in these last few days the best that you can. As much as those several days of pre-labour contractions drove me crazy, I will always the savour time that I had with friends and family during that period.
- Last but not least – TRUST! Do your best to trust your baby will come when the time is right, and that your birth will happen when it’s supposed to. Do your best to turn your waiting into an enjoyable time.
Why not make the wait for baby a little easier by using a familiar, friendly face to guide you through it? Our book is packed with pictures and stories to help explain what’s happening as your child grows. Your child will love learning about how their new sibling is growing, and they’ll be excited to share all their own milestones with you at the end of each chapter. Plus there are fun activities such as spotting different types of baby clothes and guessing what things they might need during their first year.
When the time comes to expect a new addition to your family, you need to plan ahead. Make sure there’s room in the house and check out room options before they arrive. When they do come home, don’t forget to be mindful of their adjustments – it’s easy to take a little one for granted!