How To Take Care Of a Pregnant Woman As a Husband

Being a husband is hard, but it can be especially difficult when your wife is pregnant. Taking care of someone else isn’t easy, and taking care of a pregnant woman may feel like it’s impossible. However, there are simple things you can do to make her happy while she’s pregnant:

Do the dishes

Maintain a clean kitchen. Your wife is going to be very busy with other things, which means that the housework will fall on your shoulders. You should do the dishes after every meal, and make sure that you don’t forget to wipe down the countertops. You should also put away all of your silverware, pots and pans, glasses, cups—basically anything that was used in cooking or eating.

If she has a dishwasher (and chances are she does), it’s also important to run it once per day at minimum. It’s much easier for her if everything washes together instead of having two or three stacks of dirty dishes waiting for her attention when she gets home from work each night!

Don’t forget her birthday.

  • Don’t forget her birthday.
  • Birthdays are a special occasion for all of us, but especially for women. It’s the day when our parents and loved ones show us how much we mean to them and make us feel special by showering us with gifts, affection and attention. As husbands, we should do everything in our power to make sure that our wife feels loved on her birthday every year. Getting married didn’t change this either; it only made it more important for you as a husband because now you have another person (your wife) who deserves to be treated equally with respect and love on their birthday too!
  • Buy her something nice or make her a cake from scratch with your own hands if you can’t afford anything fancy! Take her out to dinner even if it’s just at McDonalds because being able to spend time together without distractions is all that matters on birthdays anyway! If there isn’t anything else planned then surprise her by making dinner reservations at your favorite restaurant–it doesn’t matter what type of food she likes as long as they serve alcohol there so she’ll be happy 🙂

Laundry

As a husband, you will be responsible for doing the laundry. This may seem like a tedious task, but it’s important that you do it right so that your wife (and baby) can feel comfortable and confident in her clothes.

To start, wash all of the clothes she has worn recently in hot water and then dry them on high heat. Once they are dry, fold them neatly and put them away in the closet or drawers where she keeps her clothes—don’t forget to put away any dirty laundry as well! It’s also important to remember not to leave wet clothing inside of the washer or dryer after you’ve finished washing or drying them; if any moisture builds up inside these appliances over time then mold will start growing which could make your wife sick when she wears those same clothes again later on down the line!

“Foot rubs”

  • Foot rubs are a great way to help her relax.
  • Foot rubs are a good way to help her feel pampered.
  • Foot rubs are a good way to help her feel loved.
  • Giving foot rubs can also reduce swelling in your wife’s legs, which will make her feel more comfortable and reduce the likelihood of developing varicose veins, which can be painful if left untreated for too long!

Sleep!

It may be hard for you to know, but your wife is exhausted. She’s been carrying this baby around for nine months and she needs all the rest she can get right now. Often times when a man gets pregnant, he has plenty of energy because he knows what’s going on and what his body needs to do. But with a woman it’s different because she physically gives birth to the baby so she has more wear and tear on her body than you do as a man who only carried this baby in his stomach until it was ready to come out into the world!

Now that you’ve had an opportunity to carry your child inside of you for nine months, it’s time to take care of yourself so that both of you can get some rest! Yes—take care of yourself too! A tired father makes for an unhappy family; so make sure that everyone gets enough sleep before deciding that tomorrow will be another day for workaholism or anything else rather than resting up today because everyone deserves it!

You should take care of a pregnant woman as if she were a child.

Pregnant women need to be cared for as if they were children. They need to be sheltered, fed and attended to in every way. A husband must be prepared to spend all his time ensuring that his wife is happy, healthy and comfortable during her pregnancy.

If you follow these simple rules, your wife will be sure to thank you for your efforts when she gives birth!

Conclusion

A pregnant woman is not a child, but you should treat her as if she were. After all, she is carrying your child and will be responsible for its life when it is born. This means that you should take care of her with more care than usual. Think carefully about this because one day soon she will be the mother of your children!

Pregnancy is, for many women, one of the most emotionally wrought and physically challenging experiences in life. Whether it’s her first or her fourth, the best thing you can do for your pregnant partner is show a little extra compassion during these 40ish weeks.

We’re offering 18 ideas here – all of which we’re confident will be appreciated – but the best thing for you to do is find the expressions of care that feel most genuine to you. Think about your partner as a person; her likes, dislikes, obsessions, and quirks. Many of those will follow her into pregnancy and then well into motherhood.

Showing that you understand and love her will help your partner feel cared for as she wades (or waddles) into the sometimes tumultuous waters of pregnancy.

1 | Do what she asks you to do.

This may sound like the lamest, most predictable of all tips, but there’s more: Do what she asks you to do WHEN SHE ASKS YOU TO DO IT. Maybe you don’t understand why she wants to listen to the “Frozen” soundtrack and drink hot cocoa in the middle of the summer, but dammit, if that’s what she wants, make it happen.

2 | Go to all of the prenatal appointments with her.

During COVID times, many of us faced these appointments alone. So if you are permitted, go to as many as you can, and really try to get there. If you can’t be there in person, perhaps you can join via FaceTime. Your support still matters. 

3 | Help her handle the nausea.

Pregnant women are told to snack throughout the day in order to keep their calorie intake up and prevent nausea.

Be the partner who packs the snacks. Fill snack-sized containers with nuts, dark chocolate, dried fruits, and crackers. 

Also, buy her a little bottle of peppermint oil. Few things can calm early-pregnancy nausea better than a deep inhale of this cooling elixir. Keep a bottle by the bed, in the bathroom, and one in the car.

4 | Let her nest.

Don’t make fun of it or try to stop it. If she wants to spend the evening laundering and folding teeny, tiny socks, that’s cool. Now you do, too. Start folding.

If she hasn’t pre-ordered everything for the nursery already, you could suggest a weekend shopping and lunch date for the two of you. She’ll be excited that you’re taking some of the planning off her plate!

5 | Stay up late. And sleep in.

Your sleep cycle is about to be turned upside down. It won’t be long before sleeping through the night is a dream out of reach, sleeping in until 6 a.m. is a luxury, and 9 p.m. feels very, very late.

6 | Come home once in a while with a gift for the baby.

Tiny socks. Tiny onesies. Tiny everything.

And bring home a gift for her, too. It’s hard to go wrong with a box of velvety, chocolate truffles. And actually, studies show that eating chocolate during pregnancy may benefit fetal growth, so this one is a two-fer.

7 | Pay attention to her.

Pregnancy hormones can easily convince a mom-to-be that she’s all alone and nobody has ever felt this way before. So make a pledge, sign a contract, do whatever it takes to ensure that you pay attention.

Notice things – if she’s constantly rubbing the same spot on her aching back, if she seems to be feeling really great – then let her know that you know. She needs to feel like this is happening to you, too.

8 | Gain your own weight.

Seriously. Pack on like 20 pounds. Or five, anyway. C’mon. Do your part.

9 | Think about what’s for dinner. For the next 18 years.

But really, plan and shop for meals. Cook them, too. Your partner is growing a baby, and they’re both hungry. Don’t stress about cooking a big meal; think simple and fun (this often means fewer dishes, too!) 

10 | Speaking of cravings, she will have them. They will be weird.

It’s not just pickles. It’s chocolate bars dipped in pickle juice. Be prepared, stock up.

11 | Buy a book (or an app) about pregnancy and babies.

There are a billion to choose from, so put some thought into it and get a book that suits your personality or particular area of interest. Then read it.

This will send a clear message that your brain is moving toward the reality that’s about to be pushed out into your world. Your partner can’t avoid this reality – it’s living inside her body. This small gesture is a welcome sign of empathy.

12 | Under no circumstances shall you mention her eating habits or weight.

NO circumstances. Nope. None. Don’t do it. This can only be done by her care provider. And actually, whenever you think of it, comment on how amazing her body is.

Not just, “Babe, you’re a hot pregnant chick.” That’s good, too. It’s nice to feel sexy.

But how about the truly awe-inspiring, alien-like accomplishment that is pregnancy? She’s GROWING YOUR OFFSPRING inside her body. That’s freakin’ amazing. Say so.

13 | Take her out for dinner. Savor your time together.

This could easily be the last time you do this for a while. Well, at least without also paying for a sitter, scheduling a grandparent, or bribing an unsuspecting friend or older sibling to take care of the baby.

14 | Help her stay hydrated.

Bring her a glass of water. Fill her water bottle and put it in the car for her. Keep a glass next to the bed. Not only will this help her stay hydrated, but she’ll know you’re thinking of her.

Oh, but keep in mind that she’ll have to pee. Again and again.

Do not question the frequency of this, do not complain that she’s up – for the 30th time – in the middle of the night to use the bathroom.

15 | Talk about the birth plan and let her know you’ll be her advocate.

Oh, and you know what? Talk about who you want to have around right after the baby is born.

Sometimes family is actually more work than help. Same for friends. You’ll both need support and help, but you can’t be expected to entertain the in-laws.

16 | Take care of yourself.

Are you anxious about having a baby? Supporting the baby? Bonding with the baby? This is all normal and reasonable. Your spouse can’t be your therapist right now (or ever, but that’s another post). So figure out what kind of support you need, and get it.

17 | Buy her a body pillow.

In the first few months, this may not be needed. But when she has a melon-sized human in there pressing on her pelvis and kicking her in the ribs, she’s going to want extra pillows at night.

And possibly just all the time, forever.

18 | Keep a pregnancy journal.

This could be as simple as a list of all the interesting food combinations she craves, things she does, laughs about, cries about, and other notable moments during her pregnancy.

You think you’ll remember the nuances of pregnancy, but you won’t, and neither will she. You’ll be so happy to have this journal later. You can even do this on the down-low and present it as a gift on Mother’s Day. Or whenever you’re in trouble.

And while you’re at it, take photos of her! She may protest, scowl, and hide, but refer back to #12 and then insist and persist with your shutterbug habits. She may be an unappreciative subject at the moment, but she will be forever grateful for the memories (and attention) eventually.

What Husbands Should Not Do During Pregnancy

If you are the partner of a recently pregnant person, please take my advice on these specific things that you should and should not do:

1. When your wife says, I think I’m pregnant, try not to let the words, “But I wanted a mountain bike,” come out of your mouth. You know who you are.

2. Be supportive but not bossy. It may be your child, but it’s in our body and if our body wants an entire tub of sour cream lathered on one chip, then so be it.

3. Don’t say our bellies look like there’s an alien inside, even though there kind of is. We are freaked out enough about the whole thing and don’t need reminders of “Oh, that’s so weird!” and “Oh my god, it’s moving!” We know.

4. Don’t volunteer your pregnant partner to be the designated driver every Friday night. We did not get pregnant so that we could endure crazy drunk people for nine months.

5. Don’t give us any advice ever. Not on clothes, not on what we should read, not on what we should or should not eat, not on anything. There are enough people out in the world telling us what to do already, and right now, we need you specifically for your massage skills.

6. Don’t ever say, “But you love bacon. You seriously can’t eat it?” No, I cannot eat the bacon. And if you cook it in the house again, I will seriously reconsider this relationship.

7. Don’t ever say, “Maybe you would feel better if you got some exercise?” When you are pregnant, going to the bathroom is exercise. Walking up three steps is exercise. Sneezing is exercise. Leave us alone.

8. Whenever we say, “Do you want to feel the baby move?” do not hesitate. Immediately say yes, every single time, even if the whole thing kinda weirds you out.

9. Don’t say, “Look! We weigh the same amount!” and then laugh hysterically. If we could catch you or move our arms past our stomachs, we would punch you.

10. And finally, try to remember that we are going to cry—a lot. At commercials. Over bowls of cereal. If you look at as wrong. If you hug us. It’s going to be a huge tear-fest, so try not to be scared. We might be normal again in about 18 years.

There is probably a lot more advice that I could give you, but well, I have two kids and I think they are trying to dismember each other right now. Pregnancy is just the beginning of a long and messy, scary, tearful (wonderful) time.

How a Husband Should Treat a Pregnant Woman

Marriage brings two people together, who then take their life ahead as one. Every responsibility in a marriage should be shared by the husband and wife, and this goes for raising a child as well. Although the roles and responsibilities between parents can change according to the dynamics of each couple, both parents are equally responsible during a pregnancy.

Helping your wife have a smooth pregnancy, in fact, is a matter of fulfilling your responsibility as a loyal husband and father-to-be.

As a husband, you might wonder how you can help your wife sail through her pregnancy as smoothly as possible. Here we have a guide that will give you an idea of your duties as a husband during an important chapter in your life.

Also Read: Things Husband Must do for his Wife during Pregnancy

15 Duties of a Father-to-Be During Pregnancy

Here are some essential points to remember when your wife is pregnant. By following these, you will be a helpful husband and a great father!

1. Educate Yourself

At times, just knowing and understanding what your wife is going through is a huge step, so educate yourself about the things that happen during pregnancy. There are a lot of things that need to be taken care of when your wife is pregnant, so read up on food habits, clothes, or more serious things such as supplement intake and morning sickness so you can support your wife.

2. Help If She Struggles With Morning Sickness

Morning sickness can be a painful experience that can tire a woman out in no time. As a husband, you need to support your wife during this time. Encourage her, stand by her side, and make her feel comfortable. Set up a resting space for her so she can relax whenever the morning sickness hits.

A husband takes care of his wife

3. Be Sensitive

Things will definitely change in the next few months. There will be mood swings, emotional struggle, pain, etc. During this time, these shifts are natural, so learn to be patient when your wife goes through these changes. Be sensitive to her requests and always respond with kindness. This will make her feel gratitude towards you.

4. Encourage and Support Her

Your wife needs support and encouragement at this stage of her life. Pregnancy is a time of several ups and downs – on the one hand, she is happy and excited; on the other hand, there are physical changes, uncertainties, and fear. During the journey that is her pregnancy, it is important that you encourage her and remind her that you are with her and that she need not worry.

Also Read: Fighting with Husband during Pregnancy

5. Be Flexible

Your wife may need a lot more from you on some days – this can be tough for a working husband. There might be times when you may have to change your plans or even cancel them to be there for your wife, so consider that as a possibility during her pregnancy. Try scheduling your informal meetings with friends according to your wife’s needs, and do not hesitate to ask for flexible work hours every now and then so you can spend time with your wife. This way, you can be there for her when she needs you.

6. Cook With Her

A lot of things seem like Herculean tasks during pregnancy, and cooking is one of them. Get involved in the kitchen and make the things she would make. She will appreciate the gesture and it will lighten up her load too, thus making her well-rested and calmer. Do not hesitate to take up the duty fully either!

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7. Be Around for Her

Pregnant women are most often suggested to take ample rest and not strain themselves, because of which most of them end up going to their native place as it is a safe space. As important as that is, make sure that you remain in constant touch – if possible, be with her till the 8th month of her pregnancy and take up responsibilities together.

8. Plan With Her

Awaiting your child’s birth is exciting. As a responsible couple, it is important that you plan for the future so that you are ready once your baby arrives. Make plans with your wife and discuss all the things that are important – this will encourage her and remind her that you two are indeed in this together. This is also the time you can start thinking of names for your little one.

9. Take up Responsibilities

Taking up responsibilities around the house is an important way of showing support to your wife. Help her with the little things that she may need help with, but also take up some of the labour without her having to say it. By taking up some of her emotional labour, you will make her calm and happy.

10. Be a Good Listener

Pregnancy can be a frustrating experience as much as it is a magical one, so it is highly likely that your wife will have some grievances. In these times, it’s helpful to be a good listener – listen to your wife’s complaints about pain and discomfort, about cravings and milestones of her body changing. Lending her an ear will make her really happy as she will be able to express her frustration and go back to a calm state of mind.

11. Lend a Hand in Household Chores

This is the time to take responsibility for household chores. It will soon become harder for her to take care of the house, and it is your house as much as it is hers – it’s time to take care of it! Carrying a baby is not an easy task. Hence, it is important that the two of you share responsibilities at the least.

12. Visit the Doctor

Accompanying your wife to doctor visits is an important thing you should do during her pregnancy. Visiting the doctor can get stressful if there are complications, and you should not leave your wife to face it all alone. Whenever your wife schedules a doctor’s appointment, you must go with her.

A husband and pregnant wife at doctors

13. Prepare for the Delivery

Prepare with her for the big day. At times, preparing for the delivery and waiting for the baby can get extremely stressful for a woman, so make sure you have your resources ready as and when she needs them. Keep a maternity bag ready with all the things she will need at the hospital. Read up on diapering, how to swaddle a baby, how to make the baby spit-up, and other things that are essential for good parenting. Ensure your wife that you are capable of handling things while she rests and takes care of the baby. Always show your support.

14. Monitor Her Food and Water Intake

Being pregnant means always being sure that the woman is eating and drinking correctly – make it your responsibility to know what she needs to consume to keep herself and her baby healthy. What time does she have to take her supplements? Is she eating the right food at the right time? What is she averse to eating? What is she craving? What food is good for the baby, and what is not? Is she drinking enough water? Make sure you have answers to all these questions during your wife’s pregnancy, as her health is of utmost importance.

15. Make Her Feel Special

As the pregnancy progresses, your wife may feel low and a little out of place when it comes to her physical appearance because of her changing body. At this time, you may not understand how to convince her that she is perfect as she is. So, try to make her feel beautiful and special. You can try a maternity photoshoot to make her feel special. When a husband cares for her wife during pregnancy, it can make a stark difference in how she sees herself.

When a baby is born, both the parents take responsibility. In the same way, even when a woman is pregnant, both parents must take equal responsibility and work things out together. When a woman carries a baby, she takes all the responsibilities that come her way. As a father, it is important to support her through this process. At no time should you make her feel that the responsibility is only on her. The role of a husband during pregnancy is essential and it will definitely change the way your wife completes the 9 months. So, make sure that you do everything possible to enrich this journey of pregnancy.

Feeling Rejected By Husband During Pregnancy

Pregnancy can lead to greater intimacy, but it also can trigger less pleasant changes in a relationship, including infidelity. Estimates of the number of men who stray during their partner’s pregnancy are understandably difficult to gauge, because it’s a topic no one wants to discuss. “You’re not likely to hear about it, especially during the pregnancy, but it’s probably more common than people suspect,” said Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Brown University Medical School in Providence, R.I., and author of 2008’s The Secrets of Happily Married Women.

Perhaps surprisingly, the cheating isn’t necessarily about the need for sex itself. “It can also stem from an emotional need, like a desire to be cared for, to feel important or special,” Dr. Haltzman explained. Given all the changes that occur during pregnancy, such needs that might otherwise be satisfied by a man’s partner often go unmet. “For many men, engaging in sex is a form of emotional closeness,” Dr. Haltzman says. “When their partners push them away, they feel rejected not just sexually, but also emotionally.” Many men also fear the situation will get even worse after the baby is born.

Such was the case with Troy, who had an affair during his wife’s third pregnancy. “There was such a focus on her, with all she was going through and about to go through, that I became less and less relevant,” he recalled. At the same time, his wife began rejecting his sexual advances. Although he understood she was feeling insecure about her changing body, the rejection was still difficult to manage. “You only need to be turned away so many times before you get the picture,” he said. Troy’s wife never found out about his infidelity and they remain married today, although he has no regrets.

 5 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your Relationship

“I wanted to feel important and valued,” he said. “And it worked.” This doesn’t mean dads-to-be get a free pass for bad behavior. They should realize that a woman undergoes tremendous physical and emotional changes during pregnancy. A little understanding—on both sides—can go a long way.

Recognize the signs

While infidelity during pregnancy may be more common than we think, you shouldn’t necessarily go looking for signs of infidelity. “Be alert in the same way you are alert to giving yourself a breast exam every month,” Dr. Houston said.

Ruth Houston, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and author of 2002’s Is He Cheating on You?–829 Telltale Signs, advises expectant moms to be mindful of the relationship challenges that pregnancy can pose. “It’s very important for women to be aware that this is a critical time and to be vigilant,” she advises, adding that potential clues include unexplained absences, strange phone calls, spending more time “at work,” less interest in sex and a greater focus on his appearance.

You have to be aware that hormones may be affecting your thoughts and emotions, Dr. Haltzman cautioned. Rather than jumping to conclusions alone, process your feelings with a trusted confidante outside the family. If a certain behavior seems suspect, ask questions rather than accuse when broaching the subject. “Your first approach may be to ask your partner if he can explain [the behavior in question],” Dr. Haltzman recommended. But because deceit is one of the hallmarks of infidelity, direct accusations will often be met with denial.

According to Dr. Haltzman, the only way to get confirmation may be to do a bit of investigating. Gretchen caught Marcus after reading incriminating text messages on his cellphone. If infidelity is confirmed, it’s time to seek assistance from an outsider. “You need to get a third party, like a therapist, involved to help you sort out what, if anything, is going on,” Dr. Haltzman said.

An ounce of prevention

Despite the challenges pregnancy brings to a relationship, infidelity is not inevitable. One thing you can do is sit down with your partner as early as possible in the pregnancy to discuss what your plans might be if your sexual interest drops. “If you say, ‘I really want to talk about our options if I don’t feel like having sex,’ believe me, he’s going to pay attention,” Dr. Haltzman said. And sex doesn’t have to involve intercourse. “Experiencing sexual release through touch, mouth, or massage speaks very powerfully to men,” he explains.

Reassure your mate that he’s still a priority, too. “Nurture his emotional needs and his need to feel important,” advised Dr. Haltzman. “Encourage him by telling him he’s going to be a great father.” And get him involved in the pregnancy and planning for a baby, focusing on his skills. While he may not want to discuss nursery colors, he may want to build a crib. Difficult as it may feel, actively preventing or addressing the issue can strengthen a relationship. “Infidelity is not a death knell; it’s often just a wake-up call,” Dr. Haltzman says. “Couples can absolutely rebound from this. Remember, you are going to have a child who will really benefit from having two parents in the household,” he added. “If you can find a way to make that happen, you shouldn’t lose the opportunity.”

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