Not everyone should have children. Let’s face it: there are certain people who simply have no business being in charge of a child. If you are aware that you don’t want children, congratulations. Unless you are a fervent follower of the bible, there is no need that you must reproduce.
I’m quite sure it’s a mandate of Christianity to at least try to have children if you’re able, but don’t take my word for it. In either case, there are some people who should avoid getting pregnant.
Here are a few signs you’re better off not being a parent.
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1. The world ends and starts with you.
When you have a child, your own personal agenda tends to go by the wayside, because when kids are little they simply cannot care for themselves without the guidance of you, the adult. So if you think planet earth revolves around your every stinking move, please do us a favor: don’t reproduce.
2. You aren’t stable.
We all have baggage and issues, but a few people on this planet are so unstable that they don’t know if they’re coming or going. If you struggle to care for yourself, don’t have kids until you are. Children aren’t meant to care for their parents; it’s the other way around.
3. You don’t like them.
Not everyone likes kids, and that’s OK. It doesn’t make you a bad person. But if children make your skin crawl, don’t cave to peer pressure or societal expectations by making any. Just don’t.
4. You’re obsessed with vanity.
We all want to look good post-baby, but if you’re freaked out by gaining a pound or getting one single stretch mark, I can tell you a few things: find stronger self-esteem, diets, and exercise exist, and you definitely shouldn’t have kids.
It’s normal to want to look good and feel fit, but if your obsession with your looks overtakes you so much that you cannot handle being pregnant, wait until you feel more confident in yourself before you decide to raise others.
5. You’re angry and yell often.
I grew up in a loud household. We weren’t yelling, we were talking … loudly. But if you yell and yell often because you’re angry with life, hold off on making babies and scaring those future kids to death. You’re already harassing the world with your burgeoning anger. Try therapy first.
6. You prefer being alone.
If you prefer being alone above seeing other people or being intimately involved with anyone, you may not be a great candidacy for parenthood. You’re rarely alone after you have a kiddo. It’s great to cherish your solitude and I champion your desire to stay alone, but if company unnerves you, children aren’t going to be much better.
7. You expect perfection.
If everything has to be “just right” all the time, you could be Type-A like myself ... or you could be so stringent that a child wouldn’t fit into your world. Kids are messy, loud, risky, and impulsive little souls. They will disrupt your life in the best and worst of ways because that’s what they do. If you cannot stand anything to be out or off of your schedule, parenthood will throw you for a loop.
8. You demand every last drop of your partner’s attention.
We all want to be loved and adored, and there’s no shame in that. But if you can’t stand the thought of your partner paying attention to someone else other than you for five seconds, you’re not ready to be a parent.
Even when you think they’re sleeping, kids will wake up and demand that you pay attention to them. They require constant work, love, and care. You will not be the center of your partner’s universe ever again until the kiddos are out of the house.
How do you know if you shouldn’t have a baby?
5 Signs You Shouldn’t Have Kids
- You’re Only Doing It Because You’re Afraid Of Missing Out. …
- You’re Only Doing It Because People Say You’ll Regret It If You Don’t. …
- You’re Only Doing It To Make Your Partner Happy. …
- You Have Genuine Concerns About Your Ability To Parent A Child.
Does having a baby bring you and your partner closer?
The birth of a baby may bring some relationships with friends and family closer than you expect, and others might become more distant or challenging. Many parents find friends and family will offer advice and opinions — sometimes uninvited and sometimes in conflict with their own parenting ideas.
Signs he secretly wants you pregnant
Signs He Wants to Get You Pregnant
- #1 He gets very excited around babies and children. …
- #2 He talks about the future, which includes you. …
- #3 He is great with kids. …
- #4 He wants you to get off birth control. …
- #5 He always wants to have unprotected sex. …
- #6 He offers to babysit for family members or friends.
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