What To Do When Your Pregnant Girlfriend Hates You

you could tell him that you need time and space, so that you don’t have to listen to him humming or whistling or telling you something for the 15th time. He might be upset by this, but most likely he will be relieved too and know it is an important step toward healing your relationship.

So, you want a full-on break with your partner? Use your words to explain that you need time and space to yourself. We recommend stating this calmly; avoid screaming or sarcasm so that the message is heard and understood for what it is—a need for space and not an all-out breakup. In fact, even saying “I need time” is better than saying “we need space.”

You can’t just tell your girlfriend you need time and space, it has to be with an excuse. So tell him that you’re suffering from a terrible ear infection, so you won’t have to listen to him hum or whistle, or tell you something for the 15th time

If your girlfriend hates you because of how distant you’ve become, tell him that this is a difficult time for both of you and you want to spend more time with yourself. Tell him that you can’t function when he’s there all the time, too, so give him some space to work through things as well

My Pregnant Girlfriend Treats Me Bad

Whoa there, cowboy!

Let me guess, you can’t do anything right, she hates you and you think this is the end of the relationship?

Thought so.

If your wife is still pregnant, you would be wise to let the emotions cool down before making any drastic moves in the direction of the divorce courts. 

Just google the words “my wife is pregnant and she hates me” and you’ll find a whole world of temporary (roughly eight months, give or take) hurt.

There are forums on the subject. Videos. Reddits!

The Huffington Post has put together a nine-point plan advising pregnant women how not to kill their husbands. Consider the first of their suggestions: 

“Tell him openly that you need time and space to yourself….(so) you don’t have to listen to him humming or whistling or telling you something for the 15th time or generally making you want to rip out his heart and eat it for protein for the fetus.”

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Hormones, Constant Tiredness, Sore body … Stress

Even as her body is changing dramatically, so the hormones involved in preparing her body for birth may be driving her to levels of emotions you have never seen before. It is very common for pregnant mothers to take the blame for everything out on their partner; even when deep down they know they are being unfair. 

Often women are themselves bewildered by their own anger levels: entire sections of the internet are given over to pregnant womens saying “Why am I so ANGRY!!” (who knows, perhaps your other half is googling it herself).

One thing you can do even before the baby is down is to seek to be a calming influence on your partner. Research shows that babies in the womb are affect by a stressed mother. If a mother suffers extensive stress and anxiety during pregnancy her cortisol levels (cortisol is a hormone produced to deal with stress) will eventually begin to affect the unborn child, which can then display higher levels of anxiety after birth, even well into childhood.

If your wife is crying constantly with no in-between upswings of mood, she might be suffering from depression and need to talk to her doctor about it. 

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What to Expect 

The super-popular book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” has whole sections for Dads-to-be which will explain what happens at each stage of pregnancy. It even covers what is making your wife angry – and lists things you can do to help at each stage! How Useful is that? 

The first three months are when the nausea can kick in – and it can be really bad. Add to that the mood swings caused by hormones like oestrogen and progesterone don’t be surprised if your beloved is having a hard time of it. Things can ease up in the middle bit of the pregnancy but toward the last trimester the changes in her body can be really uncomfortable, often causing insomnia and – again – bad temper. Just refer to “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”, try not to take it personally and do what you can to help.

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Sticking Together Is Usually Better All Round

It is a time for you to put the baby’s needs first. Whether you stay together or not, you are going to be a father and being a good father to this child is not a question of being fair, or of you getting your rights, it is about what is best for this child. 

There are a number of reasons why during pregnancy is not a good time to head for the divorce courts.

Firstly if it is because she is suddenly permanently angry with you it may well be the pregnancy hormones finding fault all the time, and it will blow over once your baby is born.

Secondly divorce is itself highly stressful, emotionally and financially. That kind of stress added to her already high anxiety levels will affect not only the two of you but also the baby. 

Thirdly, having to face pregnancy alone is very difficult. Having someone there to help keep the home tidy, the laundry done, and her back rubbed will help reduce some of the pressure on her. 

Finally, once the baby is born, the round-the-clock feeding and nappy changes will be very hard for two of you to manage, never mind just her if you do split up. Babies do better with two parents, and so long as you are a support, rather than an extra burden on her, it will benefit your wife enormously if you share the load.

What a Pregnant Woman Wants From Her Husband

Pregnancy hormones can make you feel a mix of emotional highs and lows, which can make many women feel more vulnerable or anxious. Some may also have trouble coping with their symptoms or even have complications  during their pregnancy, which can cause extra stress.

A positive relationship can make you feel loved and supported, and more able to deal with these situations. A poor relationship can make you feel bad about yourself, or cause anxiety  or depression.

From couple to parents 

It’s quite normal for couples to argue, even if you’re in a healthy relationship. Sometimes this has nothing to do with pregnancy. But there are some common reasons why you may argue when you’re pregnant. These include:

  • you feel your partner is less interested in the pregnancy than you are
  • the baby doesn’t seem real to you or your partner
  • you feel your partner is being too protective of you
  • you are both stressed about money
  • one of you wants to have sex but the other doesn’t
  • you are feeling sick, tired and moody
  • you are both anxious about being parents
  • you are worried your partner won’t find your changing body attractive.

“I felt sick all day, every day during my pregnancy, which didn’t really get better until I was about 6 months along. I didn’t feel good physically and was also really upset that I wasn’t enjoying my pregnancy. This made me really stressed and irritable, which affected my relationship with my husband for a while.”

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Making the change from being a couple to being parents isn’t easy. You’re probably thinking about how it will change your life and your relationship with each other.

It’s a good idea to talk to each other about your feelings and any anxieties you have about the future, including:

  • your hopes
  • your fears
  • your expectations about life with your baby
  • what kind of parents you want to be
  • how you can support each other.

You may also find it helpful to:

  • have an open and honest chat about how you’re both feeling. Take turns to listen to each other
  • try not to be accusing or too negative, instead think about practical things you could both do to make things better
  • try to understand things from your partner’s point of view as well as your own
  • make a wellbeing plan to make sense of your feelings and help you talk them through with your partner.

Talking about how you feel won’t always stop you arguing. But it may make you feel better prepared for the changes ahead and reassure you that you are in a strong, healthy and loving relationship.

Sorting out relationship problems

Sometimes problems in a relationship can become overwhelming. Some people may feel like they are dealing with everything on their own and so feel isolated or resentful. Other couples may try to talk through their problems but still can’t find a way to sort things out. 

If you are feeling unhappy you may want to try relationship advice or counselling. This gives you a chance to talk about your worries together in a safe and confidential place with a trained counsellor. You can also talk to a counsellor about your relationship on your own if you want.

You can:

If you split up

Unfortunately, some couples split up when they are expecting a baby. This can be a very difficult time for both of you but there is support available.

The charity Gingerbread supports single parent mums and dads by providing information about things like:

  • financial support
  • housing
  • managing money
  • you and your child’s wellbeing.

Domestic violence

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, whatever your age, background, gender, religion, sexuality, ethnicity or disability. Around 1 in 3 women are affected by domestic abuse when they are pregnant. This may happen for the first time in pregnancy or existing abuse may get worse during pregnancy and after birth. 

Does My Pregnant Girlfriend Hate Me

Even as her body is changing dramatically, so the hormones involved in preparing her body for birth may be driving her to levels of emotions you have never seen …

Even as her body is changing dramatically, so the hormones involved in preparing her body for birth may be driving her to levels of emotions you have never seen … even more emotional than before. … She may feel overwhelmed by the changes and can’t help but grieve over the loss of life as it was.

Even as her body is changing dramatically, so the hormones involved in preparing her body for birth may be driving her to levels of emotions you have never seen before. You are going to want to help your girlfriend through this period in any way possible, but there can be challenges in doing so.

A pregnant woman’s body is constantly changing. As her belly grows, the hormones involved in preparing her body for birth can cause unpredictable mood swings and make her more emotional than usual. This can cause an increase in negative emotions such as fear, anxiety and jealousy.

What To Do If Your Girlfriend Hates You

Your best bet is to simply ask and say if there’s anything you can do for her, you’re all ears. If there’s a reason she dislikes you, or if she says it’s nothing and you still have your suspicions and ask yourself, “Why does my girlfriend hate me?” this may be something worth speaking to a counselor or therapist with.

Your girlfriend may not hate you all the time. Maybe there’s just one thing she doesn’t like. If that’s the case, be open and honest with her about your feelings, and explain that you’ll try to change it. If nothing works, then it might be best for both of you to end things gracefully and on good terms.

If you’re having trouble figuring out why your girlfriend doesn’t like you, try to put yourself in her shoes. If she’s not being nice to you, it might be because of something unrelated to you. For example, maybe she’s stressed from work or other events in her life. Or maybe she doesn’t like her life at the moment and is unhappy about that. Even if it’s not your fault and there are very valid reasons for her behavior, it may still cause problems for the relationship if you don’t address the issue with communication.

There are several reasons why your girlfriend may be having a hard time showing her affection towards you. You’ll be able to gain insight into what the problem is and hopefully receive some constructive advice on the next step to take.

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